Curse of perfection

“Genius is born out of imperfection.”

imperfection_smPerfection is the root of all evil! Well, at least in my life. I have a crippling problem with letting my desire for perfection hold me back from moving forward.  If you are anything like me you’ve always viewed this desire for perfection as a positive trait. Something that sets you apart from all of the slackers of the world who choose to settle for second best.  Obviously, I’m being sarcastic and quite harsh, but there is truth in this misguided belief. It wasn’t until recently that I discovered how problematic this “gift” has been in keeping me from taking bold, courageous action.

My newsletter is the perfect example. I have been sitting on it for about six months now. Hemming and hawing….perfecting and editing.  I always found a reason why I wasn’t ready to send it out. At first it was figuring out how to get a sign-up box on my website, then it was analyzing the merits of every email marketing company out there, then it was finding the right blog post, then….six months later I had gotten everything set up and had run out of excuses. The last thing I had in my tool box of excuses was: “I just want it to be perfect.”

Screw that! I’m tired of trying to be perfect. I’m not perfect, nor do I want to be. I want to be real, truthful, open and genuine, about my journey to create the life and career I want.  And most of all, I want to be someone who makes things happen, not someone who sits back watching things happen to me.  As my husband always says, “80% of something is better than 100% of nothing”. This is the reason I started my coaching and personal transformation business calledLife Under Innovation. This is the reason I finally pressed “SEND” on the newsletter.

If you are anything like me, there is something in your life that you’ve been putting off and need to take action on.  What in your life do you need to press SEND on?  Where has striving for the perfect idea, timing, or circumstance held you back?  This week I want you to think of one thing that you have wanted to take action on, but have put off.  Then just do it!

Striving for perfection has gotten me nowhere except six months of wasted time. Moving forward in imperfection gave me a gift. The gift to connect with each of you more boldly and authentically.

I’d love to hear what you are committing to do this week and how it has moved you closer to achieving your goals.

Cheers to imperfection!

13 Responses to Curse of perfection

  1. DFM August 25, 2013 at 11:06 am #

    This week I’m committing to finalizing my hiring plan. Contracts will be useless without staff to support the work. I was holding out looking for the “perfect match” … Thanks for the reminder!

    • Tanisha August 26, 2013 at 7:22 pm #

      Excellent! Good luck finding good people for your team and growing business. Don’t settle, but don’t let the desire for perfection hold you back.

  2. Sofia Burau August 25, 2013 at 11:08 am #

    Hi Tanisha! Congratulations to your next step towards the authentic live! Your newsletter just hit the point for me as I am thinking/reading/researching/analyzing the perfect way to go out and tell people about my coaching and doing nothing because I don’t have the perfect strategy/plan/target market/niche/experience/website yet… You inspired me to take action this week and allow myself to be real instead of perfect. Thank you! Sofia

    • Tanisha August 26, 2013 at 7:25 pm #

      That’s a great reflection Sofia! I’m so happy you are moving forward. Finding a niche is great, but you don’t have to have one to move forward with you coaching business. The more you coach, the more you’ll learn who or what you enjoy and who/what you don’t enjoy coaching.

  3. Crystal August 25, 2013 at 11:19 am #

    Love it! Thanks for the newsletter

    • Tanisha August 26, 2013 at 7:22 pm #

      Thanks CT!

  4. Brandye August 26, 2013 at 6:54 pm #

    Thank you for this Newsletter! After reading this, I realize that I need to commit to being more open, honest, and authientic in my daily interactions. I spend so much time trying to say and do “the right thing (appear perfect)” that the human connection gets lost along the way. I hope this makes sense (see I’m doing it again :-))

    • Tanisha August 26, 2013 at 7:20 pm #

      Yes Brandye, I can definitely relate! I am drawn to people are uniquely themselves, but yet I was used to try to come across as so put together. Instead of trying to come across as perfect, I just agreed to be the perfect version of me. Besides….everyone else is taken. 🙂

  5. Tamika August 27, 2013 at 8:23 pm #

    First Congrats on this awesome piece!!!! I’ve thought about so much since receiving the email, even the perfect words to say. I’ve decided that I’m going to work on a business I’ve wanted to start for a while. The Fear of failure has kept me from moving forward but I realizing there is a 100% chance of failure if you never try. I’ve spent time trying to be the perfect daughter, sister, wife, mother, employee etc but I have to focus on being the perfect me. The perfect me is not truly “PERFECT” but its living life being true to yourself and not the expectations of everyone else. Thanks again as this was the PERFECT week for me to receive these words

    • Tanisha August 27, 2013 at 8:39 pm #

      I’m so excited for you and can’t wait to hear about the business idea!

  6. Tanisha August 27, 2013 at 8:42 pm #

    My commitment to action this week is to finish an article that I want to submit to a website as a guest blogger. Obviously, this brings out the perfectionist in my, but I’m going to push to submit this versus delaying it. You all have inspired me!

  7. Diana August 27, 2013 at 11:18 pm #


    Kudos to you for having the strength to release such a truthful and powerful peace; validation of your success is transferring that energy to others. I too am inspired to stop looking for that perfect next home and remember what is important, and that is my family is healthy and happy together. So, regardless of where we move, we will fulfill the saying that “home is where your heart is”. So, I am setting the search for the perfect house aside and quieting my fears. Tonight we listed our home and will sign the paperwork on our new home Friday. Cheers. Looking forward to having you visit our new home. Abrazos.


    • Tanisha August 27, 2013 at 11:25 pm #

      Congratulations on moving forward with your new home for your family! I can’t wait to visit.

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